The truth is..I do side with the poster – nowhere does the guy say he stop loving her, but he does not find her attractive..Remember he changed ONLY because she changed and we are not talking about a couple of pounds, let alone 20-40lbs…We are talking about a transformation of a person – most people probably wouldnt even recognize his wife if they see her before the weight gain then after..The weight is not healthy and thus not attractive either…There is no blame to the husband for feeling this way..Unless he is personally attacking her and calling her names, I will have to say I also have had a hard time wanting to make love to someone you are not attractive to..

How many of you know heavy people – REALLY KNOW them – as in friends – I do..and guess what..the girls that I know..are NEVER attracted to their counterparts HEAVY guys, they actually find the much fit better looking guys…Just because their fat doesnt mean they would automatically find other fat people attractive…and you know what – nothing is wrong with feeling this way..Pencil me this – how many of YOU find fat people attractive – in a physical sense – bet that number will be extremely low…

Of course, you may say a PRETTY BOY will bring you nothing but problems, a think sexy lady will bring you nothing but problems..Hell – I have problems with a fat wife – Id rather be unhappy with someone at least thin than fat..Its like saying, Id rather be poor and happy than rich and unhappy – BS – Id rather be RICH AND HAPPY thant POOR AND HAPPY..

Ive met tons of great loving thin people..Fat people also abuse those who are thin and find something to say bad about them..but there is not one of them that will not want to trade the fat for the thin…Some people look good with some weight, I personally like a girl with some meat on her, I just dont like it when you know there is WAY too much – and it just doesnt look attractive. My wife has a very pretty face – but the rest of her body – disgusts me – but her personality – I will not trade that woman for any thin woman – ever – I love her for that – I never tell her she is Obese, only because she sees herself everyday when she showers, its too sensitve to say anything to her…So I try my best to give her as much loving without trying to notice the obesity – its alot of work – and its worth for me. I wish I could help her loose the weight, Im in pretty good shape, always have been lucky about it…

Just remember – and this goes for men and woman – there is a diff between love and attractiveness. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong wanting to see your husband or wife in a physically attractive way. Its the way we are, of course there is more to that to make it work – but it plays a part.

Good luck with your wife. I know its hard to deal with it and although you dont expect her to probably loose all the weight. It will be nice to see her drop some pounds, it makes a world of a difference. Just sacrifice everything for her – help her on whatever – dont press it – its not easy to loose weight. At the end if she doesnt want to – well – life provides other options – none that I will suggest – but its human nature – that shit happens..
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Ladies this is a health issue not a beauty issue. Men and women both need to watch their weight.

Not only do you owe it to your spouse to be:

Faithful, loving, kind, supportive, honest, and attentive to their romantic and sexual needs.

You have an obligation to take care of yourself.

Why is that so tough to understand?
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tell her you are worried about her health and with the kids you want her around a long time,

make her feel good about herself, most people overeat because sarotin is released in the small intenstine and makes us feel good,, so the more you eat the more you feel good,,
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I don’t really care who you vote for the points on this question, because of all the questions I’ve ever answered this one is the most important one yet. This could be the saving point of your marriage and the lives of your family including your baby are at stake here. If you choose to listen to me, then I think you have a chance.

First, you need to approach the issue with caution and sensitivity. No one likes to be told they are getting fat even if they know they are. Your wife is already probably very emotional from being pregnant so you must proceed with extra caution. However, her pregnancy might work in your advantage. Have a talk with her and the doctor about what you both can do to help insure the health of the baby AND your wife. If your doctor has any brains at all she/he will catch on to the fact that your wife is getting too fat and it might be something the doctor would suggest that your wife take action to help.

After the baby is born and the doctor has cleared her to exercise, try to see if the doctor can suggest a workout program for your wife so she can get back in shape. You should go with her to the gym or wherever she plans to work out if possible. You should also be very supportive in any way you can such as following a nutritious diet and exercise program on your own. It will be more motivating to her if she sees you working out and watching what you eat too.

It will be a lot harder if your doctor doesn’t see the need for your wife to lose weight. You will likely have to wait until after your child is born to do anything. However, let me be very clear with you… if you do not do something to help your wife lose weight you WILL regret it later. Be honest, but be very sensitive too.

Finally, don’t let yourself get pulled into porn or cheating. It is a path that will lead you to more unhappiness. You have a child coming now and that child needs a father. Find a way to help your wife lose weight and save your marriage.
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Personal experience